Coping with moving away from home

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So you’ve just accepted a position in a town located half an hour outside of Birmingham, you have no idea how you’re going to get there, how you’re going to deal with the 300 mile + journey between yourself and your family or what kind of weirdness the surrounding areas will offer you… no seriously that’s my story. Everyone’s story is different, and there are lots of factors that will affect your ability to thrive in a new area, but I am going to give you 5 tips on things you can do to help feel comfortable and happy in your new location. 

Be sociable

Don’t rescind into yourself and become a husk, this is rule 101 (well number 1 but you get it), no one wants to be friends with someone who is consistently moody, just ask any member of Guns n Roses that isn’t Axl. This isn’t to say that you can’t share your emotions about being away from home, in fact sharing will bring you closer to your new flatmates/colleagues, but there is only a certain amount that is healthy, imagine spending a date with a prospective lover telling them how much you miss your ex… not going to happen.

Ask people about themselves

Asking others about themselves will usually incur a reciprocal question and this is a great way to not only get to know your new family but to also build up a connection and respect. Don’t go too over the top and ask them “who was your first crush?”, this is not only irrelevant, but it’s also a bit forward, just start off with some things about what their life is like, what type of music they like, etc.. This will help you to get to know their interests and background.

 Join a local club or organisation

Obviously if you are busier then you have less time to worry about the move you’ve just made or missing your family and friends, with the vast amount of clubs and organisations available in almost every part of the country, a group of like minded people might not be as far away as you think. Whether your vice is Yu-Gi-Oh Cards and Pokémon or Classical Music and afternoon tea, there is a group for everything (there’s even sports groups for all the Michael Phelps or Mo Farah wannabes reading). If you can’t find anything in your local shops, then Facebook (other Social Media sites are available) is equipped with the necessary facilities to help out.

Start a routine

Much the same as being busy, having a routine will keep your body and mind organised, whilst everything else might feel like chaos, the calming influence of a dedicated routine can be bliss, and something to keep you grounded. Assigning times for things might seem overly regimented but it’s an excellent way to keep you on track, as soon as you click into this new routine you will feel better.

Create your own space

Just because you have moved away that doesn’t mean you can’t take a slice of home with you, whilst mementoes can be painful reminders of what you lost, they also act as a way to make you feel comfortable in a new area. Pictures of loved ones, decorations or just something that reminds you of home will all help you settle in and should not be underestimated, something as simple as surroundings can have an immediate effect on moods.

Feeling sad or upset about a move is perfectly natural, and it can really help to express your feelings, whether that be a family member or a close friend, although they are still in their usual routine they will still be feeling the effects of the move and will be supportive of your struggle.

Please remember that this will probably be one of the best times of your life, change is good, new experiences, new people and new situations are all positive, and are all steps towards your future. Personally my placement year was one of the most amazing times of my life (except that one time at band camp…), and should be relished rather than feared. The relationships and development that will occur at this time are important and necessary for a progression in your life, enjoy every second!

One of the biggest adjustments with moving away can be the change of accommodation, so in one of our upcoming blog posts we will be helping you find and pick the best place to start your new life.

Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance, you must keep moving. – Albert Einstein